Every relationship goes through its ups and downs, but what is the difference between a good and a bad relationship. Can you tell the difference between a relationship in the making or one that has completely taken over you, or have you already been so mummified that you can’t tell the difference. You don’t have all the answers, and that’s understandable. There might be slithers of answers showing you the differences, but you are still unsure. The first sign would be physical abuse and because we all know what love feels like, we easily forgive this for many reasons, one being a lack of belief in ourselves and that this is the only way we can associate love, with physical abuse. Then there is the other one mental abuse, this I associate with physical abuse in the same light. We are numb, numb to feel what is right and only allow this to happen to us because we don’t feel the pain. The signs of a physical or mentally abusive relationship is of the following • You are constantly tired, no life within you and even if someone had to squeeze you nothing would come out. • Being unhappy (would you even know what being happy is, this would be a difficult one to notice) • You don’t have any oomph for life, even making a cup of tea or brushing your hair is an effort. • You always trying to ignite some affection or attention. • You don’t trust your partner. • They always seem sneaky. • They lie to you. • They never around or even when they there, they not present. • You constantly put their needs above your own. • Verbal abuse. • They talk down to you when you around people. • When you come up with an idea, they shoot you down. • You don’t feel safe around them. • You constantly walking on eggshells. • No respect for you. • You feel no control over your life and can’t make decisions for yourself. • You constantly making sacrifices for them. • Burying their faults under the carpet and yours is always raised to the surface. • They financially need you. • You constantly feel drained. • Name calling. These are only a few of what your partner is doing to you and making you feel and that is the reason why you need a coach ,someone to help you recognise all of these to GET BACK YOUR LIFE.